Your camera is acting normally as it was designed to do. The "issues" with which you are concerned are all
I focus, press the shutter, and only one photo is taken. I have to press the shutter 3 times, or hold it down, in order to be able to shoot the bracketed sequence.
It is explained on Page 106 in the EOS Rebel T3i/EOS 600D Instruction Manual.
Under the first bullet point, it could be clearer that you need to "... press the shutter button completely and hold it down until the series is completed, the three bracketed shots will be taken..." Perhaps since we've all been trained to hold the shutter button down fully until after an image is taken to reduce camera shake (haven't we?), it might have been assumed the reader would understand it to be the case.
The EOS Rebels are all set up this way. So are most, if not all, of the other EOS cameras. There are cameras from other makers that can be set up to take all three bracketed shots with a single shutter push, but Canon cameras don't allow the option.¹ Further, if mirror lockup is being used there is no way to avoid the mirror cycling between exposures, even when using a wireless remote to allow the entire bracketing series with one press of the button!
¹ If there are any exceptions it would only be with some 1-Series bodies or possibly the 5Ds/5Ds R or 5D Mark IV. Both my 5D Mark III and 7D Mark II, as well as my older 5D Mark II, 7D, 50D, and Rebel XTi/400D are all the same as your Rebel T3i/600D in this respect.
I can't use the left/right arrows in the Exposure menu (not in menu, not in quick access and all I can do is create a bracket using the main dial). But the left and right arrows should do under/over exposure for me right?
¹ If there are any exceptions it would only be with some 1-Series bodies or possibly the 5Ds/5Ds R or 5D Mark IV. Both my 5D Mark III and 7D Mark II, as well as my older 5D Mark II, 7D, 50D, and Rebel XTi/400D are all the same as your Rebel T3i/600D in this respect. Most Canon cameras do not allow setting an exposure compensation value when using Manual exposure mode. Some models released since mid-2014 do include the option. This currently includes the EOS 7D Mark II, 5Ds, 5Ds R, 1D X Mark II, 5D Mark IV, 80D, etc. but none of the Rebel/x00D/x000D series. The original 1D X also has the capability with a firmware update released in 2014. For your EOS Rebel T3i/600D it's covered on Page 103 of the EOS Rebel T3i/EOS 600D Instruction Manual.