The first two are easy to achieve in practice. The third may be achieveddepends on the precise cameras you are comparing, but you can usually get close, or get the same output resolution by resampling. Given the same eventual resolution and sensor characteristics noise will be similar since according to point 4 each pixel receives exactly the same amount of light, and hence the same photon noise. In reality sensor characteristics differ, e.g. the signal doesn't have to travel as far to the ACD, but the pixel control circuitry takes up a larger proportion of the pixel area.
Point 4 is harder to maintain in practice. It is the size of the entrance pupil, not the aperture designation that determines depth of field and thus amount of background blur. A 100mm f/2.0 lens has an entrance pupil that is 100/2 = 50mm wide. To match the field of view of a 100mm lens using a sensor half as wide requires a 50mm lens. To achieve an entrance pupil of 50mm this lens must be f/1.0. Given these conditions the depth of field will be identical. If the number of pixels is the same then the amount of light hitting each pixel will also be the same. As the f/1.0 lens is two stops faster, it lets through 4 times as much light per unit area onto the sensor. But the pixels in the smaller sensor are half the width and height, therefore each pixel gets the same amount of light.
Maintaining entrance pupil also means the amount diffraction is the same across format sizes. Smaller pixels feel the effects of diffraction sooner, however for the same entrance pupil the small format lens has a lower f-stop, thus experiences less diffraction. In summary there is no respite from diffraction when moving to a larger format as you have to stop down more to get the same depth of field.